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Leaving Collin

Leaving Collin
September 13, 2012
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By: Annie Kratzsch

I knew that’s what it would feel like. Not ‘going away as a couple’. Not ‘celebrating our 10th anniversary’. But ‘leaving Collin’.

We had not both been away from him overnight since he was in the NICU. Only a very small handful of people know how to do even the basics for Collin – feed him, vent his tummy, give him medicine/supplements – not to mention his bedtime routine, which involves a shot, two blood samples, interpretation of those samples in order to maintain the right level of ketosis, cleaning his g-tube stoma, and setting him up on either oxygen or bipap. That doesn’t even include all of the normal bedtime stuff that is more complicated when you have a kid who can’t talk, sit up, or help in any way. On the few nights when we went out on dates during his bedtime, we did most of his routine ourselves earlier in the afternoon. Spending a whole night away always seemed like an impossibility.

But I grew up watching my parents go on little overnights now and then and I knew how important it was for them. Other couples my own age made the time to have these retreats and, even though I have the tendency to disqualify myself from things other parents do because of our situation, the more I thought about it, the more important it felt.

If I’m honest, though, there was a part of us that didn’t want to spend a night away. There is a false security that comes with thinking that as long as we’re with Collin, he will be okay. And a full night feels different than an afternoon or evening date. Much bigger. Like making a climb without a safety rope.

Luckily, I have some truth-speaking friends who gently suggested that maybe I was making excuses and that maybe, just maybe, it would be good for everyone involved – including Collin. Then my sister volunteered to learn the ropes and stay at our house while we were gone. We set up a two-week training schedule. I made a hotel reservation. I printed off pages of notes.

The result? We had a beautiful time. Yes, our hotel was only 10 minutes away, but that allowed us to relax and enjoy ourselves more and we still felt like we were in a different world. We went to a movie. We dressed up and went to dinner and took a walk and held hands. We watched a lot of Olympics. We slept in till 8:30. We reminisced. We only called to talk to Collin twice.

My sister handled all of the trickiness beautifully. Collin had lots of quality time with his aunt, uncle, and cousin. He painted us a picture and played with instruments and seemed excited when we came home. I know we were excited. When we finished our brunch and realized that we would be home in time to put Collin down for his nap, it was a bit of a mad dash. But we were refreshed and recentered, rushing home in joyful anticipation and not at all in anxiety or guilt over ‘leaving’ Collin.

Annie Kratzsch blogs at Collin the Champ. Please check her out, she has incredibly insightful things to say about parenting a developmentally and medically complex child. And, you’ll be immediately smitten with Collin!

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About the author: Annie Kratzsch

Annie Kratzsch is a farm girl living in the city with her husband and 4 year-old son, Collin. In her few minutes not spent managing Collin's therapies, medical appointments, and various special needs, she reads (always more than one book at a time), cooks, and tinkers with words.

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Nancy September 13, 2012 at 10:22 am

You have no idea the perfect timing of this. We too have a medically fragile special needs daughter. Her morning and bedtime routines can take hours. so we have never left for a overnight and we are going to try and go on one in October I was praying this morning God please let us quit living life constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. Please help me to live life and enjoy every moment now not dread what the next could possibly bring. So thank you for this post I know it was an answer to my prayer this morning.

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Annie Kratzsch September 13, 2012 at 10:53 am

I’m so grateful that this was helpful to you, Nancy, and I really encourage you to make that night in October happen. Even if everything doesn’t go exactly according to plan (we’ve certainly had to run home during a dinner date to put in a new g-tube!), it will still be a good experience for you, your daughter, and the person honored to take care of her in your absence.

Sarah September 13, 2012 at 4:36 pm

So glad it was a rejuvenating experience for everyone!

Sara Erling September 13, 2012 at 9:35 pm

I am so proud of you. What an amazing mom you are and I feel
So proud to know and work with you!!!

Heidi September 24, 2012 at 7:19 pm

Good for you and for your sister who stepped up and helped you have a night out. I have a special needs child that takes a lot of medicines, etc and it is rare to have people comfortable enough to volunteer to help, so good job aunt! Don’t wait too long to do it again! 😉

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