Tips for Coping While Your Preemie is in The NICU

5 Tips for Parents of a Premature Baby

two premature babies

About 1 in 10 babies are born premature, defined as being born before 37 weeks, each year in the United States. And, in most cases, the cause of prematurity is unknown.

My oldest daughter was born nearly three months too early, and I was completely and utterly shell-shocked by everything happening around me. When my second daughter was born six weeks early, I was slightly more prepared.

Over the years, I’ve had some time to reflect upon our time in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) and what I learned along the way.

 

5 TIPS FOR COPING WHILE YOUR BABY IS IN THE NICU

If you or someone you know has had a premature baby, here are some tips for those first few weeks and months, especially if they’re in the NICU:

  1. Don’t shut people out. I didn’t realize it at the time, but my coping mechanism during my oldest daughter’s time in the NICU was to push people away. I was sad, depressed, and grieving. So I shut people out. Then naturally, I wound up feeling very alone. I think if I had let my family and friends in, I might have had an easier time coping with her preterm birth.
  2. If the NICU has a support group, go. Our NICU had a parent support group, and I am eternally grateful for it. It was powerful to talk
    to other parents who were going through the same thing as me. While my family and friends were supportive and well-intentioned, they weren’t going through it in the same way. Only other NICU parents could truly relate to my situation.
  3. Give yourself a break. It’s okay to feel sad. And angry. To grieve because things didn’t turn out the way you thought they would. Whatever feelings you’re having, I recommend that you acknowledge them. But please know that there’s a fine line between feeling sad and postpartum depression. If you’re slipping into depression, please talk to your doctor about it.
  4. Capture memories. It might seem odd to someone who isn’t going through it, but take pictures while your child is in the NICU. Take pictures of her in the isolette. Her first bath. The first time she held your finger. Don’t feel like you have to be robbed of those memories, just because your baby is in the NICU. The “firsts” may be different than what you pictured, but they’re your memories. And while my youngest wasn’t in the NICU, they both love to look back and see what they looked like and how tiny they were.
  5. Learn what you can. Maybe it was another coping mechanism for me, but I tried to learn everything I could about prematurity. I wanted to have a better understanding of what was happening to my daughters. Their treatments. Their development. So I read books on it. I found this book on prematurity to be particularly helpful: Everything You Need to Know About Your Premature Baby from Birth to Age 1.

Looking back, the experience of having two premature births was a complete mixture of emotions. They were both the happiest and scariest moments of my life. But like any parent, I wouldn’t trade those memories and experiences for anything in the world. They’ve made me and my girls who were are today – strong, determined, independent females.

I feel comforted now knowing that there are many brilliant researchers at Cincinnati Children’s and around the country trying to advance care for infants born prematurely.

To learn more about the Newborn Intensive Care Unit at Cincinnati Children’s, call 513-636-4466.

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Kori Morrison

About the Author: Kori Morrison

Kori Morrison is a mother to a lively nine year old and an energetic six year old. Despite being born prematurely, both her girls are right where they should be on the growth chart. She works at Cincinnati Children’s and is a strong advocate for the March of Dimes.

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